Work hard, Play hard... et un peu de déconne!

Quand il n'est pas occupé par son herbier, le petit P sème des pierres blanches dans la forêt... Adepte de vieilles séries policères allemandes, il n'est pas peu commun de le trouver en train de manger la choucroûte devant la télé!

12 décembre 2006

The obvious way: Signalling or no?

"Lenina was smiling at him; such a nice looking boy, she was thinking, and a really beautiful body. The blood rushed up to the young man's face; he dropped his eyes, raised them again for a moment only to find her still smiling at him, and was so much overcome that he had to turn away and pretend to be looking very hard at something on the other side of the square.
Bernard's questions made a diversion. Who? How? When? From where? Keeping his eyes fxied on Bernard's face (for so passionately did he long to see Lenina smiling that he simply dared not look at her), the young man explained himself" Aldous Huxley (1894-1963), in Brave New World (1932)

Here's to shyness, here's to signalling, here's to putting your eyes where your desire, heart or lust is... And here of course to (re-)discovering that one can't lose what you don't put in the middle, but you can't win much either!

And that's what I realize I have been doing on a weekly basis: As soon as I start to get some interest, I trash the girl, start dancing or even go play pool with another*!

In these past 15 months, since I started blogging, I can list at least two long-term committment prospects I let go by trying to outsubtle myself in my mating behaviour... As for lost short-term flirts, the mind is boggled, I lost track...

This reflection of course leads to three questions:
- Am I trying to outsubtle myself? To avoid being blunt, frank or even direct, I go so far to try to impress, outwit, taunt and render jealous?
- Am I chasing the eluding 100% success rate?
- Is that why I never end up with the ambitious girls? Because they have no time to play my little games?
- Do I do this because I feel like a long unloved ugly duckling, hence unworthy, and I need to secure the interest of my "target" before making a move, fearing rejection above all things?

I think the answer to all above propositions above is "yes" and the process is probably self-sustaining: I have to reverse this!

And of course keep you posted,
Ciao! P

PS: In a rare occurence, I have some cool link I didn't get per e-mail or pumped on David's blog... Here I present you

* true story last friday!


At 13 décembre, 2006 08:15, Anonymous Faust said...

I strongly recommend you to read that book:
Mystery - The Venusian Arts Handbook
The website is also quite good, but before having read the book not worth scanning:

At 13 décembre, 2006 10:04, Blogger P-Man said...

What about starting there ;-)

Have fun...

At 13 décembre, 2006 21:20, Blogger Julien said...

Salut P, à ce que je vois tu analyses toujours autant...continue! J'adore et je crois pas que tu sois le seul dans le cas de figure que tu présentes. Salutations de Frib où tu es toujours le bienvenu.


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